What to Do When The Dog Ate Your Kids Homework Poor dog! According to your kid, the family pooch ate their homework yet again. Its amazing you dont have to go to the vet more often! In all seriousness, homework is one of those hot topics for parents. Many moms feel it is their life purpose to ensure their child completes homework correctly and on time. When a child falls behind, Mom sometimes gets very anxiousand resorts to using all the homework motivation techniques she can find! Guilt Trips, Lies, and Short-Term Homework MotivationTechniques That Dont Work The following three homework motivation techniques lead to more aggravation and only achieve short-term results (at best). 1. Fear TacticsTelling your children they will get nowhere in life without school is an ineffective lie. Your kids will call you on it as soon as they find out people like Bill Gates were school dropouts! 2. Guilt TripsWhen parents place too much pressure on their children to succeed in school, kids often rebel by skipping class, taking drugs, drinking alcohol, or even dropping out of school. In chapter twelve of my book When Youre About To Go Off The Deep End, Dont Take Your Kids With You, I mention Amanda, a past counseling client who was driven to get straight As in school while her parents groomed her for a career in medicine. Meanwhile, all Amanda wanted to do was act. When I met her during her second year in college, Amanda was on antidepressants, battling suicidal thoughts, and falling behind in school. Although guilt trips may work in the short-term, they often backfire in the long run! 3. BribesWell give you $20 if you get an A on this test. This type of pressure can very quickly put a strain on your household budget, especially when your child demands a raise for that A! Your children will rarely feel proud of their accomplishments if theyre only getting good grades to appease or please you. Positive long-term results require a better approach. How to Best Support Your Child Not every kid on this earth can be a doctor or a lawyernor should they be! We need a variety of skilled adults for a healthy, functioning economy, and the true success stories are the ones who are doing what they love. One of the best things you can do for your child is to see what they are truly passionate about and then support them in it. Encourage your children by helping them to succeed at the things they love best! Consequences: The Best Teacher So how do you get your children to do their homework? You dont! Instead, you leave homework up to your children, and let them deal with the consequences directly. Here are four effective ways to inspire your children to do their homework: 1. Let your children experience poor grades. When report cards come out, sit down with your children and ask how they feel about their grades. Discuss which areas they want to improve in and which areas they are proud of. 2. Pay attention to the subjects they are interested in. Ask them about their interests, hobbies, and projects. Support them in their activities any way that you can. 3. Attend as many of your childs school events as possible. Go to the parent-teacher interviews, the concerts, and the games, and demonstrate your interest, caring, and support. 4. Stop reminding them about homework. Leave the responsibility for their homework to them. In order for your children to do well in school over the long-termand ultimately in life!they need to care about their homework and responsibilities more than you do. Gimmicks, lies, guilt trips, and similar homework motivation techniques dont help. Instead, choose to make a small investment in your kids future success: Give them the support and encouragement they need now. Theyll ultimately feel more confident about making their own choices and taking responsibility for their achievementsand then you wont have to motivate them to do their homework again! |
